HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED THIS BEFORE?

A lady some years ago fell terribly ill. She was in between life and death. She was rushed to the Hospital at about three o’clock in the morning. She could hardly breathe and it seemed life was being snuffed out of her. On getting to the Doctor, she was asked to be admitted and the Nurse was to place her on the bed and then administer drips on her. The lady had hardly sat down on the bed when the Nurse shouted on her to be fast. As the patient gasped for breathe, she shouted even harder asking her to better explain the way she was feeling so that she could be transferred to the teaching hospital. You know what? The Nurse constituted more sickness for the patient! It was emotional pain. There was no simple display or show of love even if it had to be faked! Well, that Patient was ME! However that was not just my first experience with unpleasant nurses. Did I hear you say it can’t happen in Private Hospitals? I’ve had experience on both sides. My question is this… What are the characteristics of Nurses? Are they not meant to be warm and caring? Is this attitude just peculiar to Nigerian Nurses? Is it that they are not being paid well or they were forced into their profession? What on earth could be their reason for constituting a nuisance in the system? You know why I’m so passionate about this issue and had to take a step forward to write on it? MANY innocent souls have died because of the careless attitude and harshness of some Nurses! I even heard the story of a Nurse who was on afternoon shift and was already closing up to hand over for the person on the night shift. Few minutes into packing her bags, there was an emergency and a Man was rushed into the Hospital who was bleeding seriously: aftermath of a ghastly motor accident. She was so much in a hurry that all pleas to take in the Man’s record to be attended to, fell on deaf ears. She told them she had to go home to prepare her Husbands meal and they should exercise patience for the next Nurse that was going to take over from her who was not yet around. As for the Doctor on duty, I don’t know anything about him or her. To cut the long story short, this Nurse got home and the Husband was not yet back. It was quite un-usual. It was her husband that was rushed to the same Hospital! The Man died! She was even too much in a hurry to look at his face! Now how many people have lost their lives in the hands of cruel and hard hearted nurses? Nurses that will never be patient with a woman in labour pains? Nurses that will hiss and shout on their patients? Have you ever been involved in these cold attitude of Nurses? What can actually be done? PLEASE, share with me…

WHAT WILL BECOME OF YOU?

On the 27th day of September 1954 at Omu-Aran, Kwara state, Nigeria, a baby boy was born to Mr Ibrahim and Mrs Dorcas. He was named Olaniyi Oyedepo. Little did they know that in some years to come, this child that wasn’t given any special attention was going to be a world acclaimed preacher! The seed of greatness was planted in him from birth! On January 29, 1954, a baby girl was born to unwed teenage Parents. She had a mountain of obstacles already in front of her as a new born baby. Her mother was an eighteen year old housemaid. She was raped by a cousin when she was nine years old and later molested by a male friend of her mother’s and by an uncle. Above all, she was very poor. Today, she is a National celebrity and considered as one of the richest women in the world. I believe you know who I’m talking about. It’s Oprah Gail Winfrey. On the 2nd day of March 1942 at Ifewara, present day Osun state, a baby boy was born. For the first 17years of his life, he was never able to boast of a shoe and walked bare- footed for lack of money. 51 years after, President’s and kings of the world count it a privilege to dine with him. Pastor Adeboye is a man mightily used by God to liberate thousands of souls from problems that money cannot solve! On the 14th day of July 1954, a baby girl was born to Chief and Mrs Paul Young Edemobi. She was named Dora Nkem Edemobi. Little did they know that her name will be written on the sand of time and would become a Professor and Minister in the same country! Professor Dora Akunyili is here for you to see. On the 4th day of August 1961at Hawaii, a baby boy was born. He was raised by a single mother and his grandparents. He was also raised in a small village in Kenya, where he grew up herding goats with his father who was a domestic servant to the British. They didn’t have much money and he had to take out loans to put himself through school. That boy has grown up to be Barrack Obama. The first black American President! On the ---------------------------- YOU were born! No one knows what will become of you YET. Eyes have not seen neither have the ears heard, nor the heart conceived it. You have gone through various challenges you might have even wished you were not born. Brace up! It’s not new but rather warming you up for that place of glory you’re to occupy. That seed of greatness still lies within you. It will spring forth! At the appointed time it will speak, the world will marvel! Be convinced that you’re taking your place. Encourage yourself if nobody is. One thing is very common and constant amongst these people… THEY FACED CHALLENGES!!! On all sides! Some of their challenges outnumber what you’ve ever gone through in life when combined together. What could be the worst situation you’ve ever faced or will ever face? IT”S NOT NEW!!!!!!!!!!! Now, choose not to spend time regarding or considering your present circumstances and challenges. You know what you’re supposed to spend time on? NURTURING THAT SEED OF GREATNESS IN YOU! It’s there! The above nurtured theirs! You just have to nurture yours too. How? Study, work, pray, connect and be disciplined! I’m watching out for you!!!

I HAVE SEEN!

Who am I to judge? Who am I to point accusing fingers? However my Bible tells me To correct my brother who is erring Telling him to depart from his evil ways. I have seen her call herself a Christian I have heard him say he is Born Again Yet he is David at home But Kingsley outside Mary at home, but Janet outside. How long would we play around two kingdoms? If God be God let us stick with him If it be the devil, then do likewise. How long would we bear his name Yet, betray him in the eyes of all? My eyes have seen! From afar they proclaim!!! Getting into the inner chambers… The stink is repulsive Yes!!! It’s that bad. The day is coming When he would SEPARATE!!! Yes, SEPARATE!!! Between him that serveth him And him that serveth him not. Who are we deceiving? No one but ourselves. Let the one who fears God indeed Choose to depart from iniquity A word is enough for the wise.

HAVE YOU EVR FACED REJECTION?

REJECTION Have you ever been rejected at one time or the other? Has mum ever looked into your eye and told you that your birth was a mistake? Has Dad ever told you he's not even sure if he's really your Father? Has your sister ever told you that she's more beautiful than you or your teacher told you that you just can't make it above average and most especially a point my write up will always focus on... Has a guy ever looked into your eye and told you that you're so fat and he wondered why he ever asked you out in the first place? Or rather, you don’t deserve him. Has a girl ever looked into your eye and told you… Is this what your mates are giving their girlfriends? The questions are endless. However, if your case was not mentioned, I leave a blank space for you to fill it in........................................................................................................................... BOTTOM LINE, you've been rejected at one time or the other. Someone once said a lady walked into a room full of girls with her sitted, looked into her eyes, and in the presence of everybody said..."I just hate you." If you were the one, what would your response be? People at one time or the other might have said some nasty things to your face or behind you which is not necessarily because you have some character flaws but because they either don’t just like you or are not comfortable with your confident and lively personality. Some sadists are not just happy around lively people. One thing I want to make clear here is that no matter the bad compliments you might have gotten from people or you still get on a daily basis, always have it at the back of your mind that the problem is not with you but with the person. People can think and say what they like which you can in no way control. Even God cannot control our thoughts and actions! So, what's the way out? 1. Get rid of every negative mindset that might have been built in you over the years and the best bet is eating the word of God! It works like tonic. 2. If possible, try to avoid being around people that never have something good to say about you. It’s healthier to stay around people that celebrate you. 3. Take a journey inwards and discover your uniqueness. You’d fall in love with the real you when you find yourself. 4. Always have it written in your heart that regardless of the external and negative situations and utterances, you’d let it stay outside and not come into you. Never brood over it. Dispose it as fast as you can and replace it with what God says about you. Remember, he's the only one that loves us genuinely and dares to watch our backs even when we are not. KEEP THIS... You're the best of your kind. I love you and how much more God?

THINGS TO NOTE FROM MY WEDDING

A glorious Wedding to a loving Spouse is what most people if not everyone desires to have. We’ve all at various times being given ideas and advice on so many things but really, an advice coming form experience is worth heeding to and I’m about doing that so you could be prepared for all the challenges and “disappointments” that may characterise the day before and the very day.

Before you start out in planning a wedding at all, it is very important that you take out adequate time to pray. As you plan, make sure that everything is consciously committed into the hands of God in fasting and prayer. It’s very important that you and your Spouse are fully involved in this spiritual exercise. Marriage is a good thing and of course, we should know that the devil does not want any good thing. Imagine one chasing a thousand and two, putting a whole ten thousand to flight? Get ready for a fight! especially if your relationship is a purposeful one.

Some months before my wedding, the Holy Spirit spoke clearly these words into my ears… “Prepare for war” I was wondering from where it was coming from. Could it be my health? Finances or what? I could not lay my hands on one thing, but something was sure… no matter the challenge, it will submit to the authority of the word in prayer and fasting. So what did I do, I and my Fiancé then, started out in prayer and fasting. Oppositions started coming up even as at 2weeks to the wedding. I’ll save you the details but today, we are celebrating.

Let me be more practical on some few things that happened which I know that if no prayer had gone forth earlier, it could have been worst. First, I went to withdraw some amount from the bank for the wedding purposes, about a week to the wedding. After withdrawing, I went to an eatery, went to the convenience to freshen up because I had an interview. Few minutes at the place of my interview while waiting, I suddenly realized my wallet wasn’t in my bag anymore. I figured out it could be where I went to eat. Getting there, my wallet was returned to me EMPTY! I thought I was dreaming. I became destabilized and could not even gather myself together for the interview ahead of me. In few seconds, tears trickled down my eyes! Funny? Because of money?.... I felt it! My Fiance called, laughed it off and told me to forget about it immediately. But the truth is that money was lost.

Well, few days I was to collect the Aso-Oke for the traditional wedding, I was told that the man I had paid for to do it had died! Can you beat that? After thousands spent on calls to verify if it was on ground, I finally gave up on it and went to Lagos to buy another one. Bringing it back home, I was told by my mum and Sister that I bought the old fashioned one that has been used in the 80’s. lol? Anyways, we had to go somewhere else, thanks to my mum and her high spirits. We finally had another one done expressely, more expensive but more glorious.

Now, let me come back to the HUMAN FACTOR. Your so called friends can be extremely disappointing at this time and really, God forbid me to mention names, but some people I had placed high there were no where to be found. Various excuses abound and some even employed the silent treatment method. You’re left to imagine what your offence was, but really do we have to offend the devil before he gives us a good fight?

Some ignored requests, some promised heaven and earth and some did not just show up! Like I said some time ago, God allows some people to prove themselves to you at a particular point in time so that you can know those who are worthy to cross into the next phase of your life with you. Bottom line, don’t be fooled by the smiles. Be discerning!

Enough of that, where do I start from in sharing my testimonies? The day has come and gone, I give God all the glory, the rest is the MARRIAGE itself and I bet you, that’s what matters most.

I want to use this opportunity to appreciate every one that called me, sent their text, pasted on my wall and sent comments on face book, those that came physically, those that said yes on the events page and never came (lol) and most humbling was my course mate while at the University… Sister Yemi, she  came all the way with her clutches! When it was time to present gifts, she stood up and slowly came forward. All the way to Canaan Land? Now, I want to cry…. What manner of love is this? Be sure of one thing… God uses the foolish things of this world to confound the wise.

I want to seize this oppourtunity once again to pray for those that desire the miracle of marriage. Yes, it’s a miracle! That the almighty God will surprise you on all sides and give you the man or woman that will love you unconditionally for who you are.

As I’ve stepped into this new phase of my life, join me as I bless your lives with various articles, topics and debates on relationship issues. I love you all but I love my Husband more (lol)

Our Wedding pictures will come on line as soon as the editing is done.

Also, please bear with me as regards my change of name. The Scott at the end of my name is a Facebook error I’m still working on it to strike it out.

Yours in Love,

Bukola Adeolu-‘Dele

THE ROCKET EXPERIENCE

When the fire is burning under you, you wish the world can understand.
Even your closest soul mate cannot feel what you feel.
At times like this, I can assure you that you might have to go through it alone because even when people come around you,at the end of the day, you'ld still be left with YOU(your spirit,soul and body)
I want to let you that it's not the time to ask God where he is,because he's actually there!
Around 2003,while going through a particular challenge,the Lord told me..."In every trial you go through,know that there's the presence of God" and that was the re-fueling I needed,knowing that no matter how hot, how I feel,what i'm seeing and even what I think,God is still in it.
Our greatest times of test is not when we shout about the faith we have in God and when everything around us seems stable.

The greatest test of our faith is when we are in the fire! Face to face with the situation.
Some time again, the Lord said to me..."You have to be rechargeable not only outside Pharaoh but with Pharaoh "
Pharaoh here,represents that stubborn challenge and what he was simply saying is that it's not about the energy and faith we profess outside challenges but more importantly, the faith we walk in while facing the challenge.
I leave you with these words spoken by Juanita Bynum... When the Rocket gets ready to take off,what causes it to go into orbit is the fire that's underneath.If there's not enough fire underneath the Rocket,it can't go through another dimension.
We go through the fire because it's time to be shot out into another level of exploits. While in a Rocket,the people on ground,thinks you're on fire but you inside knows that you need the fire!
Also,you can't hear anybody else on ground and you can't even get down because it's already programmed.
So also your present circumstance. I tell you, its a set up to elevate you.
You might be feeling the heat friend but I tell you the truth, you're a rocket shot into orbit to fulfil destiny!
You might not be able to eat what you like now or wear what you like...
But I can assure you that when God is through with you this season, you'ld look back and thank him for the fire!

WHAT ARE YOU DOING NOW?

There’s so much work to be done now that if you neglect it or you’re rather ignorant of it, it will come back knocking, but this time, with greater responsibilities, stress, frustration and unhappiness. What am I talking about? It’s the fact that we are planting seeds into our eventual marital destinies, whether good or bad, ignorantly or consciously. What are the seeds we have sown in the past? Can you quickly take time out now and look back at the relationships you’ve engaged in, in the past and the one you are engaged in right now? What is your character? What is your mind set? What are the compromises you’ve made and what’s your intention for that lady or that guy? Please be truthful now and reflect…
If you think that your past does not matter including what you are doing presently, I want to tell you emphatically that you’re wrong! Ask those that have gone ahead of you and they’d tell you that they wished they never did what they did in the past. Your past and partners past can affect your relationship in the present regardless of how good your present intentions are. So, is it not wise to be careful about what you’re doing now? I read the story of a pastor whose marriage efforts were made to save, but the marriage failed. What was the problem? This guy, as a youth, was just sleeping around with ladies. He had quick sex in every unimaginable place. When he married, he didn’t know how to pet his wife and enjoy lovemaking. His approach was always quick and momentary to sex. This was what broke their marriage! He admitted with his mouth that his past had caught up with him, as he did not know how to enjoy a long sexual period. The Senior Pastors tried all they could to give a lifeline to their marriage but they couldn’t. The wife eventually left and that was the end of the marriage. Whatever we do today has a consequence and a repercussion. Please, don’t think that you can go on making all the mistakes and when you’re finally ready to settle down and get serious, everything would just straighten out. Remember, life is about sowing and reaping. You can never eat your cake and still have it! Always have it at the back of your mind that Love is greater than sex. Sex is simply pleasure and not love. Repeated sin deadens the conscience such that you’re on a highway to destruction and you don’t even know it. Be careful about how you treat people and their emotions. Before you act, always remember that living a happy and fulfilled life especially when it comes to relationships is not by luck. Consciously determine to do right and act right if you truly love yourself and your future.

Yours in Love,

Bukola can be reached for counseling on 07062327831 or email scott_bukola@yahoo.co.uk

OFF TO FELLOWSHIP… for fellowship or for appointment?

The church which consists of me and you was established by the Lord Jesus Christ himself when he said in his word that we should not forsake the assembly of one another. Over the ages, multitudes that gave their lives to Christ are advised to be established in a church to ensure their continuous feeding on the word for the growth and stability of their Christian faith.
Many people today as Christians still feel that they don’t have to go to church every Sunday and that once they are leading godly lives, then they can stay back in their homes. However, this is a wrong mindset because if we understand the way the kingdom works, one has to understand the fact that you can’t survive as an island but you need to consistently be renewed and serviced. There’s power in coming together under the same umbrella.

Now, what is obtainable with those that have gone ahead to make it a point of duty to be in church every Sunday and every weekly service? In as much as we have those that genuinely go to church to hear the word of God and seek his face, we have people that are not going to church mainly for other reasons. I’ve been guilty of this myself but I’ve been quick enough to caution myself and consistently check my heart to see if my motive is right. Though there’s nothing bad in going to church for some other reasons, these other reasons shouldn’t be our main priority and motive for going to church.

Let’s take a look at this… You’re at home on a Sunday morning feeling quite tired and probably lazy to go to church. You have so many excuses. Probably your dress is not ironed, you slept late the other night and you need to eat what you’ve not cooked. Suddenly, you remembered that you’re to meet with Shade after service who is to bring a particular material for you to buy which you must give your tailor unfailingly that week. Without consultation, an un-usual energy surges up within you and the next moment, you’re in front of the church. The question is HAVE YOU GONE TO CHURCH FOR FELLOWSHIP OR FOR THE MATERIAL?

Sometimes we remember we need to get particular information from someone, check out that guy or lady you’ve been eyeing for so long. (Remember I said there’s nothing bad in other reasons but that those reasons should not be our priority). You know why it’s important to address this issue? The truth is that some of us miss out on our blessings even before going to church at all because our motives are not right. So, what’s the wake up call? Let’s consciously and consistently watch our motives before going to church and let God know our expectations before stepping out in the morning. However, we shouldn’t be cajoled to go to church. We are the church and we need each other, meeting together under one umbrella, praying together, praising together, discussing together, there’s nothing like it! Above all, finding renewed strength to run the race for the coming week and the coming years. BS

FREE VISA FOR YOU!!

FREE VISA FOR YOU!


Many might jump at this while some won’t give a hoot but whatever the case may be, I know this piece is coming in handy.

Travelling abroad has become the greatest dream of some Nigerian youths. People dream it, pray about it, brag about it, kill for it, steal for it and die for it. The recent I heard is of Mr Emeka who found his way to the tyre compartment of a plane all in a bid to travel to Atlanta. He was however found dead with his blood and mangled body when the plane arrived at Atlanta. What a sad end for a promising young man who left his wife, children and family behind for a desperate search for greener pastures. Reports have it that they pay as much as 800,000 for the processes. Couldn’t this same money be multiplied by a man who has a vision? What Mr Emeka never knew is that it’s more of a vision than the location!

Mr Emeka’s case is just one out of thousands of sad tales that Nigerians have been exposed to all in a bid to be in the white man’s land where the streets are “paved with gold” Who is ready to tell others not to make travelling abroad a priority if not Mrs Shade who got married to her husband at the age of 30 and after two kids, the husband decides to leave for abroad to search for “greener pastures” Today Mrs Shade is about 50yrs old and is still expecting her husband to come back home.

Is it Felicia who lost her boyfriend to the abroad thing after many years of a purposeful relationship with a vow never to forsake one another? While Felicia waited for her boyfriend faithfully, the next thing she heard was that he was getting married to someone else over there and hope’s she’d understand. Understand what?

Is it about the ones who don’t see their Parents for over a decade only to be told that they are dead and they cannot even afford to come home for the funeral because they might not be able to go back there? I tell you, the true value and beauty of travelling abroad is if you can go and come back at YOUR WILL!

Is it the ones that have missed memorable times to be spent with their families like weddings, naming ceremonies, graduations, e.t.c ?

So many youths have spent thousands of naira in securing Visa, while some were duped, others found out after getting there that they have to work through their nose to pay back the debts that they have incurred. Some have further placed an embargo on their career and education because they know that one day, they’d be flying over the seas.

With the alarming rate of people both young and old who want to make it out of the country at all cost, one would want to wonder if there was a switch over there that at the touch of it, money vomits itself. No doubt, their standard of living is quite good and they have good facilities and infrastructures that make life comfortable but really, its still about WORK WORK WORK and WORK. Infact, you can’t afford some kind of laxity you exhibit in Nigeria over there.

Nigeria as a country is the worst hit because of the constant brain drain and it’s effect on the economy on all sides but should we all continue to leave and watch Nigeria rut away from afar? I’ve been in church at different times where people share their visa testimonies. I’m left to wonder, is it really a testimony? I believe a change of location just happened to you and not a guarantee for the fulfillment of destiny. A failure in Nigeria can be a failure anywhere. Now, don’t be quick to say na because you no get moni… Many of us have the money and the connection but still refuse to go just anywhere because we understand the place of vision and the place of location.

To me, big boys are not those Abroad but those that can go and come back at will, not those that used all their life savings to go and even after 20 years, you can’t come back because if you do, you might never be able to come back home.

Ask your folks that are there and those that have gone and come back. There are many over there living purposeless and wasteful lives that can not come back for fear of shame and rejection. I remember a friend of mine who saved up all he had and few days he was to travel, God told him not to go. Really, if you were the one would you obey or rather tell God to wait and allow you to come back?

Here’s my point, there’s a vision larger than life in the heart of every man which comes first before location. If you’re in the worst place, you’d thrive if your vision is there. Bishop Oyedepo once said that no matter how honey flows in a particular place, if you’re not sent there, it would never flow to you. Please don’t be deceived by the glamour, the fun and the cars. After all said and done, it is vision and fulfillment that matters. There are some people that their world will never hear them because they are far away in Florida where God never sent them and there are some who have stayed to faithfully nurture their dreams and Florida and other Nations of the world yearn to have them in their county to teach them how it works. Ask the likes of Bishop David Oyedepo, Fela Durotoye, Tosin Akerele, Deolu Akinyemi and Bukola Scott(I’m not lolling O!)

It takes us to sit down and nurture faithfully and diligently what we’ve got because God is true and cannot lie… Seest thou a man diligent in his work, he shall stand before kings and not mere men. A man’s gift makes room for him…

If you’re there and perhaps you feel a desire to soar but because you’re a second class citizen you can’t, then why not come where your wings can be spread wide enough to fly? Here’s a call to those out there… Finish your courses and come back home, Nigeria needs you and the destinies that are tied to yours are crying for your hand. I hear someone say, what do you have for them? Well; like Fela Durotoye said at Ignite 2010,…”For the sake of the Land”

In wrapping this all up, after getting a clear direction of the problems you’re born to solve and you’ve found out in clear terms that your place is in Nigeria, would you still rather leave? THE FREE VISA IS STILL AVAILABLE!!!