WHAT ARE YOU DOING NOW?

There’s so much work to be done now that if you neglect it or you’re rather ignorant of it, it will come back knocking, but this time, with greater responsibilities, stress, frustration and unhappiness. What am I talking about? It’s the fact that we are planting seeds into our eventual marital destinies, whether good or bad, ignorantly or consciously. What are the seeds we have sown in the past? Can you quickly take time out now and look back at the relationships you’ve engaged in, in the past and the one you are engaged in right now? What is your character? What is your mind set? What are the compromises you’ve made and what’s your intention for that lady or that guy? Please be truthful now and reflect…
If you think that your past does not matter including what you are doing presently, I want to tell you emphatically that you’re wrong! Ask those that have gone ahead of you and they’d tell you that they wished they never did what they did in the past. Your past and partners past can affect your relationship in the present regardless of how good your present intentions are. So, is it not wise to be careful about what you’re doing now? I read the story of a pastor whose marriage efforts were made to save, but the marriage failed. What was the problem? This guy, as a youth, was just sleeping around with ladies. He had quick sex in every unimaginable place. When he married, he didn’t know how to pet his wife and enjoy lovemaking. His approach was always quick and momentary to sex. This was what broke their marriage! He admitted with his mouth that his past had caught up with him, as he did not know how to enjoy a long sexual period. The Senior Pastors tried all they could to give a lifeline to their marriage but they couldn’t. The wife eventually left and that was the end of the marriage. Whatever we do today has a consequence and a repercussion. Please, don’t think that you can go on making all the mistakes and when you’re finally ready to settle down and get serious, everything would just straighten out. Remember, life is about sowing and reaping. You can never eat your cake and still have it! Always have it at the back of your mind that Love is greater than sex. Sex is simply pleasure and not love. Repeated sin deadens the conscience such that you’re on a highway to destruction and you don’t even know it. Be careful about how you treat people and their emotions. Before you act, always remember that living a happy and fulfilled life especially when it comes to relationships is not by luck. Consciously determine to do right and act right if you truly love yourself and your future.

Yours in Love,

Bukola can be reached for counseling on 07062327831 or email scott_bukola@yahoo.co.uk